Currently, Sandra Bullock is a mother to two kids who were adopted into her family. However, she was not always confident in balancing parenting and her job.
When Bullock was a child, her mother, Helga, set a great example of what a mother should be like, but she could not ease her daughter’s worries about parenting until much later in life when she offered her sage counsel.
Helga made Bullock fearful of having a daughter first, though, before offering her the advice. Bullock stated that her mother had advised her to wait until she had a daughter, and she admitted that the idea of her daughter looking anything like her was terrifying.
Helga subsequently offered her daughter life-changing counsel, advising her to be more open when dying. Bullock admitted that her mother had been a cold person.
When her mother died, Bullock said she was standing by her mother’s bed, fighting back the tears, and her mother admonished Bullock not to act like her. Bullock claimed that everything became clear to her at that very time.
Bullock understood that her mother didn’t want her to live life the same way as her since she had been permanently shut down and disconnected as a child. The actress claims that she can now feel all emotions openly.
Bullock Assumed Motherhood Wasn’t for Her
In an interview with Hoda Kotb for “TODAY,” Bullock related her first-time motherhood experience. Bullock agreed when Kotb questioned her about whether or not she believed she would not have children as she approached her forties.
The star of “The Proposal” claimed that before Hurricane Katrina, she didn’t think parenthood was for her. She admitted that following the hurricane, she had a deep-seated intuition that her child was in New Orleans.
Bullock claimed that the adoption procedure entailed filling out several documents, facing judgment for who she was and whether or not she could have children, and preparing to become a mother. She then flew to New Orleans, discovered her child, and started the adoption process.
Bullock had to undergo a four-year procedure before she could eventually claim legal custody of her kid. She disclosed:
“Oh, there you are, I murmured as I turned to face him. He seemed to have always been there. He was only wise and could fit in the crook of my arm. He also looked me in the eyes.”
Even if you didn’t think you would, you’d find a kid; Bullock insisted she had always been taught. She was overjoyed to have her son join her in her life. “You’ll run into the perfect child. We’ll find your child.” She believed she had gone through it.
A daughter was adopted by her a few years later. During a “Red Table Talk” episode, Bullock said she discovered the existence of both of her children at the same cemetery as her mother.
Bullock told Jada Pinkett Smith, her mom, and her kid about this. She said, “
Even though it makes me sad, I am sure that my mother gave me these children.
Bullock, at last, had a child.
Bullock added her son Louis to her household and adopted a young girl named Laila. Laila’s account was not positive, and it was challenging to integrate her into the family.
In “Red Table Talk,” Bullock also talks about what it was like to meet Laila. Bullock had to go through the foster care system since Laila was her first foster child. Bullock claims that the difficult part of this procedure is proving your parenting competence.
About halfway through, she said she wasn’t sure she could continue since she couldn’t address every query. She claimed to be aware that she wouldn’t be able to grow her family if she didn’t react right.
Additionally, she was required to enrol in classes that taught her how to raise a traumatized child. When talking about her daughter’s trauma, Bullock emphasized that her kid was always dressed and ready to go at the first sign of problems.
Even though they were traumatic for her, Bullock found humour in the difficult situations. Bullock told her that if the little girl fled, she would be behind her. Even though her daughter was so independent and let her know she was leaving, Bullock.
Bullock said that Laila was triggered daily and that, despite her initial inability to identify the triggers, she eventually remembered her training and came up with a workaround. Her buddy continued, saying:
I believe there will be a change after she has been with us for a longer period than she has not.
Bullock said she anticipated her daughter would still face many challenges due to the tumultuous and traumatic first two and a half years of her life, but the family is working through it together.
Bullock gave up her career to care for her kids.
Because she is now so committed to her family and raising her children, Bullock has put her profession on hold and has no plans to do so. She said, “
After becoming a mother, I finally realized that this is what I should do when I grow up instead of being an actress.
She claimed that from a young age, she had a calling to have children and thought that this was what she intended to do with her life. She has even asked that they go to the same college and live in the exact location so they would always be nearby.
She talked about helping her daughter through her trauma and telling Laila that she would always be there for her—even though she realized that because of her early trauma, Laila would always be terrified.
Bullock said she would take a break from acting to promote “The Lost City.” She said that her children would join her for the LA premiere of the movie before taking a little break from the screen.
When asked if she would stop acting, Bullock said she was serious and didn’t know how long she would be away. She understood that to be happy; she needed to be with her family.
Bullock made her acting debut in a feature film in 1987 with “Hangmen,” leaving the Off-Broadway production of “No Time Flat.” After 35 years, Bullock decided to pause her acting career to spend more time with her kids.