The relationship between Pink and Carey Hart has been unique from the beginning, and both sides have been very open about how they have made it work for such a long time.
If you were to believe in Hollywood, you might assume that real love is easy, simple, and perfect. When it comes to romance, television and movies, rarely reflect what happens in real life. Because maintaining a relationship takes effort on everybody’s part. Take Pink and Carey Hart as an example.
Even though they have been in a committed relationship for over 20 years and are madly in love, their love story is filled with turmoil, breakups, and conflicting feelings. Their marriage demonstrates that deep love is not synonymous with easy love. What it does mean, however, is that there is a love that can’t be broken.
The following are some lessons that may be drawn from Pink and Carey Hart’s relationship.
The Grammy-winning singer and her husband, a professional motocross rider, have never been shy about revealing the unconventional beginnings of their relationship, which started in 2001. It all began when Pink went to the Summer X Games and fell in love with one of the competitors, Carey Hart. This was the beginning of everything.
They got along well and started dating almost right away. They became engaged in 2005 when Pink, true to character, defied expectations and proposed to Hart at a motocross race. Since then, they have been happily married. After being married in 2006, they had their daughter Willow Sage in 2011 and their son Jameson Moon in 2016.
Their romance may have all the makings of the ideal love story, but if you look closely, you’ll see that they’ve had to overcome major challenges. Specifically, the end of a few significant relationships. The first time they broke up was after being together for two years, and the second time was in 2008, after having been married for just two years.
“We’ve had two breaks,” Pink told Ellen DeGeneres in 2016. “The first one was about a year. And the second one was 11 months.”
Even at that time, they prepared divorce papers, but later the couple had a revelation.
True love is worth fighting for.
Pink and Hart chose to put in the effort rather than choosing the easy path and going their way. The “What About Us” singer stated that after she told Hart how she felt, they went down the path to reconciliation.
Pink told Redbook that Hart requested her to play at his Las Vegas club on New Year’s Eve 2008, even though they were no longer friends. Despite having a plan, she agreed.
“After soundcheck, I told him he needed to come to my room,” she recalled. “I had made him a photo album of all the cards he had ever given me and the photos of our relationship. I spent months on this album. On the last page, I pasted a photo of me from a bad movie I made years ago with my neck slit and blood everywhere. Next to it, I wrote, ‘This is me without you.'”
On the next page, there was a picture of a baby. And I wrote, ‘The rest is unwritten.’ The divorce papers that we never signed were behind that page. I was like, ‘The rest is up to you.’
Be willing to change.
When Hart saw such a genuine show of passion from Pink, he told her he wanted to get back together. However, doing so would not be simple. Pink and Hart had to spend significant time and energy making their relationship work once they had made things up. In addition, they needed to have a positive mindset, not just as individuals but also as a pair.
Pink told Redbook that they first altered their balance between work and personal lives. She explained their split by saying, “Because we were working all the time, there was so much time between our visits,” revealing their breakup.
“Carey would see me for five days and be gone for six weeks. We’d try to fix everything in those five days — you can’t do that. And it builds and builds, and you don’t even know what to say or fight about anymore, and there’s no middle ground, and it’s like, f*** it, we’re not getting anywhere.”
They now take turns focusing on their jobs, which shows that they have taken a more balanced approach. Pink takes her whole family along with her when she goes on tour.
And when it comes time for Hart to work on issues that thrill him, she allows him his space and lends him her support. She said in 2019 that she would quit the music business for a year to focus on him.
Carey is super supportive. He follows me around the world, and now it’s his turn.
There’s no shame in couples therapy
After coming to this conclusion (and being honest enough to accept it), one of their other key issues was communication, “When you become silent and give up, you’re doomed,” the singer noted — Pink and Hart proudly became a “couples therapy people.”
She told Redbook that she went into the experience ready to change, and as a reward, she got a great deal of knowledge that was very helpful.
The first was the importance of putting one’s all into an effort. “You can’t have one foot in and one foot out,” she told the magazine. “You must dive in and be willing to be executed at stake for the love you want.”
She also realized that she needed to focus on trying to better herself.
I knew how to walk away when I met Carey. I knew how to tell him to f*** off. But I didn’t know how to sit at a table and work through something. Now we’re good at that.
As she told The Guardian in 2017, “Monogamy is work! But you do the work, and it’s good again.” It would help if you accepted that there would be lows and did not let them drag you down, as tempting as they might sometimes be. “I think we both deserve a trophy,” she joked in 2020. “It’s one day at a time. One day at a time.”
Success is a direct result of one’s efforts.
Being truthful is one area in which Pink and Hart have always excelled, and this trait has served them well in their romantic relationship. They always include a healthy dose of fun and reality whenever they celebrate a new milestone in their relationship.
In 2018, Pink joked, “12 years married today. 16 if you count the four years we spent deciding if we would live together forever or kill each other. It’s been a nice mix of that ever since.” In 2019, Hart quipped, “Can’t believe it’s our 13th wedding anniversary. Who would have thought two misfits like us could pull it off!!!”
A reminder that we can improve our relationships.
Maintaining loving relationships takes effort, but the rewards may be immensely satisfying. According to Hart, in the year 2020, all of the difficulties were worthwhile.
“14 years married to this amazing woman. I’m so proud of our life together,” he wrote.
“Both of us came from broken homes, yet we chose to work hard at our relationship. And look at us now! Two misfits when we met, we have grown together and now have an amazing family.”
Relationships aren’t any different from any other effort regarding the connection between effort and reward. Not only will you become a stronger couple, but you will also become a more enhanced version of yourself if you make a goal to focus on and build your love.
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